The above picture is of my mom and me. I have other pictures that I wanted to post for this blog, but I am scanner-less at the moment, so I will post them later...



10/1/1985
My mom was taking me to soccer practice. A lady made an illegal U-turn and wrecked into our little Nova. My mother did not survive the wreck. She was only 29.
I do miss her dearly...I can't believe it has been 23 years. It's hard to believe I have lived longer than she did...as the years have passed, I can no longer hear her voice in my head...I do remember her smile...how she had a ring on every finger and when she would wave it would make a beautiful sound...how she would want to french braid my hair and would make me sit until it was perfect...how she gave me my first two albums...Rick Springfield and Air Supply...how I got into all of her false fingernail stuff and made a total mess...how she was learning karate...how she gave me my first dog, Peaches...I have so many questions that I would like to have asked her...but what 7 year old thinks of those things...



There are things I will never know but I have no doubt that she loved me and she was definitely loved.
I wonder why I survived with only some scars on my knees, head and hand and I still have glass in my face...but the injury that hurts the most is the big hole left in my heart...


I do think of the memories with her that were never experienced because she was gone...her cheering at my softball games...her teaching me to drive...pictures with her before prom...us consoling each other at my grandfather's funeral...her helping me move into my dorm room...celebrating her 50th birthday...would she have married? would I have had other siblings? I know not to dwell on such things, but the mind does wander...



For whatever reason I survived...I can only hope and pray that I fulfill my purpose and live a life that would have made my momma proud...



Parents spend time with your children...create wonderful memories with them...tell them everyday that you love them...Children, don't take your parents for granted...tell them you love them too...



Eva LaNell Inman
6/1/1956-10/1/1985
Forever in my heart

26 remarks:

She had to be beautiful because she passed it on to you.

I cannot wait to get to heaven so you can introduce me to her. I just know she is amazing.

I love you.

September 30, 2008 at 9:59 PM  

Ok I can not stop crying....big ol tough me...I never got the chance to know your mom but my mom always talks about what a great person she was and how you remind her so much of her.
For so many reasons, you did survive and I am so glad you did. You are a true blessing to me and my boys, you will never know.

Love Cristal

September 30, 2008 at 10:08 PM  

Beautiful! She has a wonderful legacy in you.

September 30, 2008 at 10:46 PM  

She was beautiful and she left you with memories and a beautiful soul.

You are destined for so much more and right now you make everyone around you better for who you are.

One day in heaven you will once again be with your Mom and she can french braid your hair again and you can tell her all about how you carried on to be the beautiful woman you are.

You are loved by many!!!

September 30, 2008 at 11:26 PM  

By the way, I love your new blog layout it is beautiful!!!!

September 30, 2008 at 11:27 PM  

God bless you and may you feel her touch and hear her voice in some mysterious way today.
Love, Dana

October 1, 2008 at 5:08 AM  

I am so crying right now - I am going home tonight to hug and kiss my kids even more :) Thank you for sharing.

Came over from Country Girl...

October 1, 2008 at 7:27 AM  

What a great post...I am sure today is a tough day for you even after all these years...

October 1, 2008 at 7:48 AM  

over from country girl -

what a beautiful tribute to your mom! you are in my thoughts & prayers. =)

October 1, 2008 at 8:27 AM  

That was beautiful! I'm off to give my kiddos a big hug and tell them how much I love them! Thanks for the inspiration! Saying a little prayer for you today!

October 1, 2008 at 8:46 AM  

I am 29 now, my mom passed when I was 18. She was 39. WOW 11 years. My little sister was 11 at the time and was in the car accident with her, my sister survived. The accident was less than a mile from our house. I was coming home to do laundry. I was one of the 1st cars on the scene - by chance. I am sure your mother was beautiful. I miss mine dearly. I love to hear stories of people that have lost their mom and are coping. It is tough. I was very bitter for a long time, but realized I cannot live my life like being bitter. It has truly made me a better person. Experiences like that really make you love more often. (I came here from C.G.)

October 1, 2008 at 9:14 AM  

i too came from C.G..she mighta warned me i would get teary-eyed. your sweet spirit shines through, miss feather. have you read Motherless Daughters? it sounds like a hard read, but i found it inspiring.. My mom up there is consoling your beautiful mom some of her famous homemade grape juice cause your mama is missing you too.

October 1, 2008 at 10:06 AM  

I'm crying right now...

You are one of the strongest, most independent person I know. You're beautiful on the inside and out. So, just know you were left here with a purpose. God has big plans for you! Your mother was beautiful too and she passed lots of good genes on to you...I'm sure she is so proud of you.

Much Love! *big hugs*

October 1, 2008 at 10:08 AM  

I am like cristal I can not stop crying. I remember that day so well and sometime I find my self still asking why!! but I also remember all the good time we all had and yes your mother loved to watch you play scoccer. you and cristal thought yall were the best lol and yall were :) Your mother was a wonderful person and my best friend we had so much fun growing up and going to school together and I remember when my dad made Louise and Linda let me and your mom go out with them one night running around. we sat in the back seat like we were something waving at the guys and boy was my sister and linda mad lol and I am sure I have told you that story before but it was so funny. you are so much like your mom I look at you and I see your mom in you and I am so thankful that you did survive not only because I love you but also a part of your mother is still with us!! she would be so proud of you as all of us are!!
I know today is very hard as many others but just remember your mother loved you so much and I know that because she told me so many times she loved you and was so proud of you!!
Feather you are a amazing and I love you very much my prayers are with you

October 1, 2008 at 10:43 AM  

You are a wonderful person and a large part of that is because of your momma. I am glad you had the opportunity to be part of Country Girls life. You have helped make her who she is.
We have something in common, I lost my mother when I was 13. I know the missing part of life that just doesn't get filled because of that absence. But I know the joy of knowing who I am because of the part of her that is inside of me. Country Girl missed out on a special grandmother.
You should be proud of who you are because of what she was!
God Bless.

October 1, 2008 at 11:29 AM  

OMG -- Seriously, is my dad not the best???

October 1, 2008 at 4:14 PM  

Thank you to everyone! Your kind words, thoughts and prayers have made this difficult day much easier for me...I am blessed.

October 1, 2008 at 4:56 PM  

Ur mom n my mom are debating who is the proudest mom...ur mom wins!

October 3, 2008 at 1:46 PM  

Sweet Feather I am blessed to know you. Your strength and faith are just part of the many amazing qualities that help define you. I wish I could take away the pain but know you that you are loved so very much. I thank God for allowing your mother to bless us with you.
I love you.
Rebecca
ps Your mom had such excellent taste in music!

October 4, 2008 at 8:50 PM  

I can tell by your words that your Mom was a wonderful person! This is beautifully written - she would be so proud of you! I to lost my Mom 2 years ago. She was 57. I miss her every single day. Won't it be one big happy day when we get to Heaven!? Yay!!! : )
xo-Keli

November 11, 2008 at 8:31 PM  

Thank you for sharing. I just read your post about your tattoo and I love it! I can't stop crying to even read what I'm writing. I'm so sorry you lost your mother so young...she sounded like an amazing woman...and so do you!

November 12, 2008 at 10:34 AM  

OMG--I'm so sorry about your mom. Sush a senseless tragedy. I'm sure she would be proud that you are so strong and have been able to carry on with an upbeat attitude. Her name on your tattoo is a wonderful tribute!!

November 12, 2008 at 7:50 PM  

Feather, I stopped by your blog after seeing you on SITS roll call. I am Heather K., and I just recently got a tattoo, so I had to check you out.

This is a beautiful tribute to your mom. There are no words to express how much her loss must pain you, even now. I lost my dad three years ago, but I had a lot of time with him, so it's different. Thank you for sharing such an intimate post.

November 13, 2008 at 10:34 AM  

Reading this just made my day a little brighter...there are wonderful Mother's out there just like your Mother was...mine being one of those too! I will today because of you try to be the best "Mommy" that I can be not just today...but everyday!

March 9, 2009 at 8:59 AM  

I am so very sorry that you lost your mother. You said you wondered why you survived and your mother didn't. I can tell you, as a mother, she definitely would want it that way. Mother's want to protect their children, perhaps she was protecting you.

My husband died 3 years ago. My daughters were 8 and 3 at the time. My 3 year doesn't remember him anymore and my 8 year old is forgetting. It's so hard when father activities come up but I try very hard to fill the gap the best that I can. Thank you for sharing your experience and letting me glimpse some of your insight.

March 9, 2009 at 10:12 AM  

I'm 20 and my mom passed last year when I was 19. It's very hard. You and your mom are beautiful and you will see her again honey. You've made it this far and you seem to be a great person. It's only been 5 months for me. Plz pray for me miss Feather. And my sis, she's 24. Well do the same for u Hun

January 1, 2010 at 4:37 PM  

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